Your grief is not going to go away… and nor should it.

I once read that grief is your love that has nowhere to go. This sits with me today, especially with the loss of my mom who I still think about daily. Losing my mom is one of the hardest things I have ever gone to, and I still find myself tearing up at random times two years later.

My initial reaction was to make the grief stop… it was too painful to think of her and her not being in my kids’ lives. However, as time went on, I now find my self searching for that feelings, realizing it’s still there, and I appreciate and love it. I have never moved on but have grown with or around it… holding it within me.

Each person grieves differently and in their own unique way.

There is no proper way to grieve or to feel when we experience loss. This is the beauty of grief but also the difficulty of it because no one seems to understand other’s grief… leaving us to feel all alone in our loss. Most reactions that we get from well-meaning people in our lives is unhelpful and at times make things a whole lot worse… unfortunately.

If we don’t respect and process the grief it can become a heavy weight that sits in our chest… or feels like a knot in our stomachs… or fills our heads with fog or… whatever.

It is also really important to untangle the grief. There may be other emotions that are taking away from the beauty of grief. There may be other emotions, such as regret, guilt and/or anger. These emotions can be untangled from the grief and looked at in a way to focus on the most important emotion… grief.